by Father Larry Rice, CSP
March 11, 2013

The three keystones of our Lenten observance – prayer, fasting and almsgiving – trace their origin to the earliest ages of our faith, and, in fact, to our Jewish roots. In the Gospels, Jesus emphasizes the interior dimension of these disciplines, asking that we not appear to be fasting, pray in secret and when giving alms to “not let your right hand know what your left is doing.” (Matthew 6:3)

The intent of this secrecy is to make sure that our motives are pure: we do these things because God has asked us to do them, because we love God and our neighbors and because we need to be reminded periodically that we’re dependent on both God and each other. We do not pray, fast and give so that we’ll be admired, rewarded or compensated in any way.

But here’s a paradox: fasting doesn’t feel good, prayer may feel good, but can also be humbling and challenging. But almsgiving always feels good. We feel good when we help others by sharing our resources. This was confirmed in 2007 a study conducted by William Harbaugh, a professor of economics at the University of Oregon. Neuroscience tells us that giving feels good. But my experience tells me that same thing.

Over the past few years I’ve had the opportunity to do some fundraising work for the Paulist Fathers and for the St. Thomas More Newman Center at the Ohio State University, where I was director from 2003-10. When I accepted a gift from a benefactor, I never once saw someone wince as they made a pledge or frown when they gave us a gift. On the contrary, these generous people were always smiling and often thanked me for the opportunity to support our mission. I always found these occasions humbling and deeply moving; peoples’ generosity always amazes me. This aspect of ministry has challenged me to be a more generous person and to cherish the opportunities I have to give.

Our loving God is so generous to us! During Lent we remember particularly his great mercy, and the giving of his Son for our salvation. Giving – whether of our time, our talents or our treasure – is a recognition of God’s mercy and generosity. We give because we’ve been given so much.  

Occasionally I’ll see a fundraising appeal that asks us to “give until it hurts.” This Lent, I’m recommending a different approach.  Give until it feels good.

Father Larry Rice, CSP, serves as the Paulist Fathers’ first consultor, a position on the community’s leadership team.